When it comes to growing or increasing your confidence many would advise you to, “Fake it, till you make it,” I disagree with that approach. It has always made me feel uncomfortable. It just seems, to put it plainly, fake! Instead, I believe in using the “Persevere-until you make it” approach. Hence the reason why I want to encourage you to practice your confidence and don’t fake it beautiful? It’s in you!
The first approach, “Fake it till you make it,” is dishonest to yourself and others. No matter how well you’re faking your confidence people subconsciously pick up on it. It’s just that they don’t know how to label correctly what they’re sensing. But most importantly you know it’s not real. You put on a mask and wear it hoping it would become real. Pretending will get you there, but only so far.
The second approach, “Persevere until you make it,” is more of an honest approach with yourself and others. When you have genuine confidence, you are real, and people can tell. They gravitate to you more because they appreciate your confidence and realness. It’s about practising and practising until it becomes second nature. The results of you practising, failing, overcoming and celebrating milestones does so much for your self-esteem, worth and value.
I genuinely believe that to grow in that are you must first be willing to accept being uncomfortable. Be prepared to feel uncertainty and the awkwardness of not being as confident as you would like to be. The simple acceptance that you’re not there yet and permitting yourself not to feel bad about it. Is what compels your innate confidence to push through.
In closing, I want to remind you to practice your confidence and don’t fake it beautiful? Over and over I’ve chosen the second approach. I guess I just like doing somethings the hard way because it’s worth it in the end.